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Playlist Live Tri-State gathers dozens of famous YouTube personalities to interact with fans over three days. In a way, YouTube is uniquely positioned for that authenticity — that realness that you guys so beautifully serve. After studying communication at Michigan State University, he moved to San Francisco, where he ran social media operations for Web sites.
Seven years ago, at 18, he uploaded his first video to YouTube, a greeting card sent out to a handful of friends. It attracted around unintended views, and he felt encouraged to make another.
Today, he has more than 6 million subscribers on his YouTube channel, plus 3. His channel is ranked by SocialBlade as the th most popular on YouTube. At 5-foot-5, with a pink complexion, glasses, a small but meaty frame, and spider-silk blonde hair currently dyed pastel blue, Oakley is a vision of the adorable, non-threatening gay best friend. He has a disarming lisp. When he meets fans, he takes them by the arm and looks them in the eye. He thanks them for being their special selves.
He tells them he loves them. They take a selfie. He signs their phones with a Sharpie. Last year, he raised more than half a million dollars for the Trevor Project, a youth suicide prevention organization. Then she fields questions about her favorite beauty products. There is a sense, among this passionate fiefdom, of revolution — the idea that the conventional celebrity, whom they see as distant and unapproachable, is dead.
That traditional media is for their parents. At one point, a YouTuber tells the audience her favorite food is mac and cheese and they explode in cheers. Before I meet with Oakley, I pass through a tent reserved for the talent and their guests. The low lights are red and sexy, and lounge music fogs the air. A half dozen girls in heavy makeup and skimpy outfits huddle by the entrance, covering their midriffs with nervously folded arms.
It feels a bit like the underbelly of the convention. For Oakley, was a banner year. Aside from touring the globe from Singapore to Australia and winning two Teen Choice Awards, he made a video with first lady Michelle Obama and met the president.
Positive is what I want. But one day he would like to have a talk show in the style of his icon, Ellen DeGeneres. His content on YouTube consists of talking about pop music and describing what he did that week. He uploads two videos a week to his channel. On Tuesday, he opens fan mail on camera and responds to viewer questions. On Friday, he recaps his week in the style of a video diary.
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Hello and welcome to Dear Hank and John, it's a comedy podcast about death where myself and my friend Tyler Oakley this week give you dubious advice, answer your questions, and bring you all the week's news from both Mars and AFC Wimbledon.
Hank is away on leave so I am joined by Tyler Oakley, how are ya Tyler? I'm good, thank you so much for having me. Thank God Hank is gone. Ah you are of course T: You know what, I think the people have been waiting for it, everyone is eager to hear laughs. No I'm so happy to be here thank you. Um, talk about your own podcast a little bit, do a little self promo, that's kind of your specialty. Um so my best friend Korey Kuhl?
And yeah, it's a lot of fun. I really love your podcast and I have to say I love your best friend Korey, he's an amazing amazing person. He's ok, ahh laughsI haven't killed him yet. We just got matching tattoos together so I guess we're bonded for life so. Oh my gosh really what are the tattoos? Ummmm, it's a outline of two hands doing like a pinky promise. Awww, that's super cool. See you think it's tender, but at the end of the day it's really just us usually what we do drunk at a bar.
Or promising each other that we'll get Taco Bell afterwards. Almost tender but not J: The really great matching tattoo is when you get the word taco tattooed on yourself and he gets the word bell tattooed on himself so you're never complete until you're together. I mean a taco is pretty complete without the bell. A bell without the taco is just kind of sad. That's actually a really good point. Yeah, no, that is a terrible bit. Tyler, I am gonna answer-- T: Do you have tattoos?
Wait, I need to know. Do you have tattoos, John? I do not have any tattoos. I have thought about getting a tattoo many times, but I think that ship might have sailed. You know, it's never too late. I love an old person with a sleeve.
And by old person, I mean you. I was about to point out that I'm not an old person, but I suppose that I am. Aren't you like, in your mid to late 20s at this point? No, we had a conversation recently, sorry, I know you wanna be like advice and things and questions, but didn't we just have a conversation about how we're both old on YouTube now? So I think we're qualified to give advice and answer questions.
Yeah, I agree, we are a little bit--we're YouTube old. You're not old really by any definition except by YouTube definitions of age. I am old by most definitions. Alright, Tyler, I'm going to get to a question because I think this is a very important first question.
Yes, I have never been more ready. This question comes from Hannah, who writes, "Dear Hank and John, I was catching up with a friend in a cafe the other day when she offered me some of her trail mix. She put it on the table in the middle and then we went back to talking.
My question is this: Can I keep reaching back for more? Should I only eat the first bite that I grab? Why do I act sneakily when I try to eat this snack that they have generously offered me to eat? Have you ever been in that situation? I've been in that situation a lot where someone'll say, like, you want some Doritos?
And I'll be like, yeah, and then I'll just take the bag of Doritos and I'll eat all of it and then they'll look at me weird, but like, why did you say do you want some Doritos?
I think you have to read their social cues. If they're chowing down and they offer you some, you, I think you can match their pace but not exceed it. Also, if it's trail mix, you can't just take the best thing and hog the best thing. No, I totally agree. That's a great point, like, of course, everybody has a bag of trail mix and then you end up and it's just like, a bunch of raisins and almonds in the bottom of it at the end of the day. So you gotta eat all the trail mix and you have to follow apparently something that Tyler calls social cues.
I have no idea what those are. Well, you know what? We'll dine together sometime soon and I'll teach you etiquette. You'll just walk me through all of it?
And I'll swat your hand if you grab something you're not supposed to. I deeply appreciate that. Which is my life motto. That's what I do in life. Oh, Tyler, can I ask you a question that comes from me? You can ask me anything. How are you enjoying this election season? It's--actually, um, it feels like it's eating away at my soul truly. Yeah, this is a question we've gotten from a lot of listeners, including listeners who don't live in the United States who are like, why are you doing this to us, which, you know, fair question.
It's eating away at my soul a little bit as well. I feel like I'm very invested in it, and I can't imagine--I think there are certain levels of identity which it probably has hurt more to witness at all. I can't imagine identifying as a woman and seeing everything that's happening. I can't imagine being a person of color and seeing everything that's happening or being ignored, but as a gay man and as a millenial or whatever I might identify, a me-lennial, um, it has been--it has been shocking to witness and embarrassing to accept as our reality.
Yeah, it's really really hard to accept as our reality and I just hope--I keep kind of hoping that somehow it's going to magically end on the morning of November 9th and I don't know if that's going to prove to be true, but it has been this weird, very intense, I think largely unprecedented moment in American history. We've never seen a candidate anything like Trump calling into question the legitimacy of the election, you know, making statements that undermine the fundamental political institutions of the United States.
I mean, putting aside policy, that stuff is, to me, pretty terrifying and it's just a reminder, this whole thing has reminded me that American history is quite short. This is all quite new and it's all a little fragile, you know? I mean, the amount of people that can sweep aside or not care about the unprecedented things that are happening in this election, like, somebody saying that they might not accept the results, like that's a pretty big deal, um, and-- J: That's a huge deal.
I mean, it's--it really is--there is no precedent for that, at least not since the Civil War, and that is a huge deal. I was just watching the Hamilton documentary that was on PBS and there's a--have you seen--first of all, have you seen Hamilton? I have not seen Hamilton. It's a very sad story. I was supposed to see Hamilton in New York City, we had tickets, we were in the airport on our way there and I have this weird disease called? Anyway, I will see it soon but it is a v--I have not seen it.
But I have listened to the soundtrack literally times. So you're familiar with One Last Time, the song about George Washington stepping away and kind of setting a precedent for a two term system. Allowing a country to move on past its first leader. And in the documentary on PBS, it kind of explores a peaceful transition and how that has become so crucial for our country and for half of America to seemingly not care about a peaceful transition is scary.
Yeah, I hope it's not half. I mean, I do hold out some hope that it's not half and that there's a, yeah. But it is--I don't want to--I also don't want to undersell how bad it is and also wanna be aware of the fact that it's much worse for, like you said earlier, it's much worse for people who aren't me and like, I benefit from a lot of privilege in this conversation about the election in general, and I'm trying to be conscious of that, but I hope that it's not half.
But yeah, it's-- T: I would love it to be--I would love it to be just a statement, so many people show up to vote that it is a statement to the world that this is not who we are. Like, it's one thing for polls to say, you know, what they're predicting but people have to show up and show the world that's not who we are.
That's a great point, so everybody, if you can vote, do, and if you don't know if you can vote, go to YouTube. I loved his series. I thought it was really helpful and plus it was interesting to see the differences between different places and how to vote absentee and all these things, I thought it was really crucial and necessary, so thanks, Hank.
Thank you, Hank, you're a good person, a good brother, and a good citizen. I bet there's a lot of people that are underage and can't vote. There's still ways to get involved.
Use your voice on social media and remind people the day before. I can't, I wish I could, please exercise your right because I can't, or if you wanna ri--give somebody a ride to their polling station. Sometimes that's the difference between if they vote or not, so you can be that difference.
Tyler, I wanna get to even more serious questions if you don't mind. This one comes from Stacy, who writes, "Dear Hank and John, I was appalled to learn last week that my husband of over 11 years believes that quesadillas and tacos are sandwiches.
Clearly they are not. Please help settle this debate so our house can once again be peaceful and we can decide how to properly raise our children.
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Longtime fan of the pod, Stacy. Well, that is traumatizing. I mean, you never wanna discover something like that eleven years into a marriage. That's the kind of thing you really, Stacy, I don't wanna criticize you in this situation, but it seems to me that you guys should have had that talk before you got married.
I mean, I have to maybe give him some credit because-- J: Content within carbs is a sandwich. Content within carbs is not a sandwich. I think the whole definition of a sandwich is-- J: A Mexican sandwich, there is a word for a Mexican sandwich, it is called a torta. It is a thing in the world. I don't know, well, I think a hot dog is a sandwich. I think this might be our first disagreement. I think I'm on his side.
I think it's important to accept all shapes and forms of sandwiches, and some of them are--y'know what, no. A panini is a sandwich and a panini is bread but thinner and so if we take it one step further and even thinner, would that not be a quesadilla?
Well, if you take it one step further and then you're just grilling cheese, that is also not a sandwich. Like, you've gotta draw the line for a sandwich at some point. I don't know if I will ever draw that line.
I've gotta say, in my opinion, and I guess the answer here, Stacy, is that if Tyler and I are able to maintain our friendship in spite of Tyler's ridiculous statement that a quesadilla is somehow a sandwich, I think that you and your husband can probably, like, figure it out and make it work, and I have absolute confidence in you, but Tyler is wrong on this one.
Stacy, I don't think John and I will ever recover, so divorce is an option. I mean, you've gotta keep all your options on the table, Stacy. That'd be a great thing to tell the kids, too. So why'd you guys break up, Mom and Dad? Oh, your dad believes that sandwiches and tacos are the same thing. All I'm saying is the straw that breaks the camel's back, that single straw is not heavy.
That is not a straw. I'm sorry, if that is a straw in your relationship, like, you care way too much about sandwiches.
You--you guys hash it out and you get back to us. Yeah, let us know if you're able to move on from this. Alright, let's move on to another question. I was wondering, as someone with a boyfriend who I think is at risk of having the same issue, what is the best way to break up with someone to help them avoid that scenario? How do you break up with someone so that they're not impacted by it? Yeah, you're not gonna be able to break up with someone so that they're not impacted by it, but I also, as someone who's been on the other side of that coin a couple times, like, looking back, I realized that it is--it was not that person's responsibility and it was not that person's fault, so you know, what happens to your boyfriend after you break up is not your fault.
Obviously, don't be, I mean, that would be my take anyway. Like, don't be cruel, but keep firm boundaries and if you need to end the relationship, you need to end the relationship, you know? I think open communication throughout the relationship helps a peaceful transition. I think if you bring up something that you've never brought up before while you're breaking up with someone, that's not the easiest way to break the news. If you haven't tried to work through it, not saying that you have to try to work through it, but if it's something out of the blue, I think that's detrimental to their process of moving on.
I think also, if you commit to breaking up with someone, commit to it. You can't be wishy washy. You can't offer, you know, maybe someday in the future we might get back together, like, that really messes with someone and their ability to move on. It's so hard to do that, but you're right.
I mean, this is all good advice, but it's really hard to do. I was recently dumped, not recently, um, no-- J: In the grand scheme of my life, recently, and one thing that I was really grateful for was he um, he said I just don't see us ever being a thing, and like that, so that stung in the minute, but how great that I had no question of maybe someday, you know what I mean?
To just have a closure to it, even though that was like probably difficult for him to say. Yeah, no, I totally agree that having those boundaries during a break up is really hard but it's really important. In my experience, anyway, I haven't been able to move on until I've accepted that, you know, I've accepted that the relationship is over and also you know, accepted that I'm gonna have a good and fulfilling life, that, you know, isn't going to involve that particular relationship with this person.
I mean, there's no easy way to break up and, but I think you make a great point that if in the context of the relationship the lines of communication are open, the breakup's gonna go a lot smoother.
And it shouldn't seem so out of the blue. I mean, if a breakup is out of the blue, then you're--that's just--I don't think that's the most kosher way to go about it. I totally agree, yeah, I mean, that should be part of the lines of communication in a relationship being open. I've never been surprised by a breakup, which speaks highly of the people I've dated.
Usually when Hank has a special guest, by the way, Tyler, like it's all fun and games, like Flula was on an episode and like, you and I are just, we're just diving deep. That's okay with me.
I'm a man of versatility. Like, this is-- T: This is what I would do every week. I would just go, I would just go straight for the jugular, but yeah, there's no easy way to break up. I got another dating question for you, Tyler, it comes from Liz. I mean, all I can think of with you saying 'straight for the jugular' is the piece of steak stuck, so be careful.
The piece of steak stuck in my esophagus? I can't--I mean, I don't wanna gross you out, but like, the worst part about this--when it happens, like the steak getting stuck in my esophagus, is that I can't swallow water, like I can't swallow my own spit even, so I just like, puke up my own spit every three or four minutes for hours until I finally get this endoscopy done.
It was super annoying. You know what, for some people that's a turn on, I'm sure, so, one man's trash, another man's treasure. I mean, I would do great with a very specific subset of the population. When my esophagitis is acting up. I have to say, I haven't had any problems since then.
Alright, let's answer this question from Liz, who writes, "Dear John and Hank, I recently decided to try online dating. One thing I like about it is that you answer a bunch of question and then they do fancy calculations to determine how much of a match you are with other users. Aren't you then too alike? What range of match percentage is actually the ideal amount? I found it to be accurately named just okay.
For me, though, if you're looking at percentage, like, sure, you can agree that you both want a dog, sure you can agree that you both love a cookout, but like.
Is any--are any questions really going to accurately detect sense of humor or personality, like, just a sense of charm, you feeling butterflies, like, I don't know if I could ever boil down a successful relationship to a handful of questions, let alone questions. I think, over the course of a few dates, you'll go through many more than that, and some of those things, like, are not dealbreakers, so I don't know if on OKCupid, you can weight the importance of a question or if it weights it for you, so I don't even know if I believe in the system to begin with, so I don't know if I can reckon a percentage that's accurate or worthwhile to pursue.
Yeah, I'm inclined to agree.
My feeling about OKCupid is, when I look at my relationship with my wife, you know, I suspect that we would not have been a match in a lot ways that OKCupid considers important, but the things that are really important to Sarah and me are, you know, some of the things you talked about like charm, sense of humor, the fact that we have shared values, which is incredibly important and really difficult for algoriths to understand.
Like, don't worry about it too much. I was really, really terrible at internet dating, Tyler, back in the, gosh, the era, when I was on internet dating.
It was different then, like, the vibe of it was different. There was no Grindr or anything, but I did meet people from the internet and went on dates with them, almost always to the same German restaurant, which, looking back, maybe wasn't the best call, and I did have a couple of like, semi-serious relationships emerge out of those experiences, but oh man, it was hard.
I--my experience with internet or app dating, I have found--I just, and maybe this is me personally, I just find that if I meet somebody organically, I feel like we get into a better rhythm from the start. I feel like, if you're on the internet learning everything about somebody, it's a curated amount of what they wanna share and who they want to be perceived as, and sometimes that really messes with maybe the accuracy of the match, especially in a system of like, sending five pictures and that's what represents you.