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"I'm a confirmed atheist, I'm a born again atheist, basically I make . one of the following groups - no religion, and Christian or Muslim and Sikh. I am so glad you wrote. An atheist and a Christian are not compatible. . make sense AT ALL for a Christian to date/marry a non-Christian. Erik was a devout Christian who led a Bible study group. . Kate and Erik joke about how forcing atheists and Christians to date would bring about . I am an atheist, and I dated a christian for about nine months, and it was the.
Judge ye not, or you are no better than the Pharisees. I hope you both have a fantastic year! Maria AJ is apparently completely blind to the beauty of the story. Best of luck to both Kate and Eric. It seems to have worked really well.
I hope things work out for you. Richard Wade I would like to hear how Erik is handling his relationship with his parents lately. The only detail I read was that at one time he stopped talking to them. Does he have to directly defy them?
Does he conceal his relationship from them? Are his age or economic dependency factors in how much pressure they can bring to bear on him? This part of the story sounds like it has at least as much potential for pain for him as what Kate has gone through.
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Please listen to the gentle words of Michael. For you to start your first comment with a sarcastic crack suggests there may be a good reason that she has not come to you to talk about this. Kate is your sister. Soon enough she may be the only family you have left.
Treat her with respect, love and empathy regardless of her views. Seavee I am a new poster on this site and this is a difficult topic. I will try and make my comments as sensitive as possible. How does Erik reconcile the fact that the Christian Bible specifically says that Christians should not join themselves with unbelievers Second Corinthians 6: A Christian is defined as someone who follows the teachings of Christ. The Bible is generally considered the authority on the teachings of Christ.
I ask because it addresses what I see as the fundamental problem between atheist and Christian relationships. How does the Christian party reconcile their belief without becoming hypocritical?
Please understand that I do not mean to be unkind. I simply have a very difficult time imagining how this scenario could be successful.
Discussion might help me out here. Changing my mind would certainly broaden my miniscule dating pool.
Richard Wade Hemant, thank you for this wonderful story. When I want people to see the essence of what you are trying to do, I will refer them to this post.
I am a christian and dating an atheist
When Kate heard the reasons, she knew exactly the proper explanations to respond with, but this time she kept her mouth shut. While the story as a whole was a nice example of people overcoming prejudices, this part disturbed me. Kate, best of luck and a world of happiness to you and Erik.
My Christian husband and I have been together for 15 years now, married for 12, and have two children together. It can be done, and done happily! Dawn How does Erik reconcile the fact that the Christian Bible specifically says that Christians should not join themselves with unbelievers Second Corinthians 6: Jen I agree with Richard; I am curious what the current relationship is between Erik and his parents.
Kate says she learned how to speak appropriately around Christians. As she began to know more about Erik, however, she discovered there were educated Christians in the world. I am not sure I understand why this is a terrible question. There would be times it would be rude to ask, I suppose, but if someone expresses to me that they think certain Biblical events are literal retellings of actual events, I would ask if they truely believed that. Come on, now, how could anyone believe that the some of the stuff in there is real?
There are educated Christians, yes, and many of them know plenty about their religion, but I have never heard a sane, rational person think that the Bible is a literal retelling of only literal, true events. Claire I am not sure I understand why this is a terrible question. I have never heard a sane, rational person think that the Bible is a literal retelling of only literal, true events.
Furthermore, the person who thinks that is an educated, intelligent woman and a good friend, whose common sense and good judgement I value in every area outside that of religion. People will never cease to amaze me. Or, what I wish I knew.
No matter how much what they believe stuns you, shocks you, disgusts you, or pisses you off, count to 10, and give them the benefit of the doubt that there is a reason they believe what they do. Think about your own beliefs; why are you an atheist?
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How sound is your own philosophical foundation? Even though atheism inherently makes sense, imagine if you were brought up differently. Even if you were brought up in a Christian household, maybe your understanding of Christianity is just plain wrong.
Now, my story sounds like a nice Christian fairytale ending but it doesn't mean it's been easy. Nor does it mean that if you do the same that your girlfriend will suddenly 'see the light' and also become a Christian.
It may be that you'll break up and that will be that. Think about a few things. Do you really want a future with someone who can't truly understand what it is to love and serve God?
They may 'get the idea' or be ok with it for you- but there'll always be the most important part of yourself that you can't share. How do you know that God hasn't got someone else in mind for you?
He may have a woman who can truly be your equal- who will strengthen and support you in ways a non- believer can't.
What if you're holding your girlfriend back? You may actually be showing her that it's not a big deal being a Christian. If she accepts your faith and you accept and don't mind her lack of faith, then faith isn't really as important as you'd like her to believe. Do you see what I'm saying? If it's ok with you then she's not going to be in any real hurry to change her mind. Being saved isn't going to be high on her agenda. Maybe something like this would be the wake up call she needs.
It may be something she doesn't act on for years- but it may germinate slowly! As Katautumn says, you may not think so now but you may get dragged down over the years. What she accepts now may very well be a cause of contention between you in the future.
One day she may resent you going to church every week or being involved in other things. What happens if you have children? Will she be happy to have them brought up going to church and being taught the Christian faith?
Will she end up feeling resentful and left out? Will she decide that because she had bad experiences that there's no way she'll let the same happen to her children and so keep them away from church or resent you trying to 'indoctrinate' them?
How would you feel either way if your own wife couldn't share in the family's faith or if she kept your children away from the Lord? You can see why we're told not to be unequally yoked- it can cause so much contention and heartache.